I like to think that I'm a positive, glass half full kind of person.
But every now and again, there is a situation (or in my case set of situations)
so stressful, so frustrating, so disappointing that I found myself facing a
bout of disheartenment, complete with a woe is me attitude.
Frankly I felt quite melancholic (Ok probably not quite as dramatic
but I have always wanted to use that word in a sentence J
So I did what was needed at the time, I shut down and completely
switched off. Sadly my blog bore some of the brunt of this. I’m sorry guys, but
I needed some time off just to feel sorry for myself, lick my wounds and eat
lots of ice cream!
Thankfully about a month ago, I had the opportunity to go away for a
couple of weeks and whilst I was there, I had the opportunity to people watch
for a while and just observe.
I saw people who live in some extremely poor and terrible conditions
and in situations that you wouldn’t even want to imagine. But the beauty of it
was the spirit of the people, they didn’t feel sorry for themselves, instead
they seemed to have a high level of pride in who they are, an attitude of I can
do anything and I am going to live life and enjoy what I do have.
I found myself completely humbled by the experience. It was exactly
the experience I needed to bounce back, to realise that yes I might have been
extremely disappointed and frustrated but that I literally had the whole world
in front of me should I choose to go for it.
I also realised that some of the very disappointments I was sad
about were actually a complete blessing in disguise.
As I thought about it some more, this is what I l have learnt and
would love to share
1 1) Disappointment is not rational,
it’s emotional, which is why when others try to talk you out of whatever mood
you have fallen into, it’s so difficult to see the sun in the rain
2) Take some time out to scream,
eat ice cream, cry etc. whatever you need, but put a time limit and don’t
linger in your disappointment. There is so much of life in front of you and
until you take your eyes off your disappointment, and stop living in your past
hurts, you won’t be able to see anything else or start the next chapter of your
life.
